The Check: Who Should Pay?
March 13, 2018
Split the Check!
Saying that the guy should always be the one to pay is demeaning to nearly every boy in the dating game. Relationships are about giving and respecting and doing for each other, so dominance and money should not be prominent issues. Though, in today’s society, guys still believe that if they pay for a date they are the ones “wearing the pants” in the relationship. In today’s lifestyle, there are many girls stepping up and asking guys out. In most cases, whoever asked takes the role of the host. Many think that, as the host, they should pay. On the first date, it is hard to tell the financial status of either person. Do not assume that just because someone asks for a date, they are able to pay. To avoid awkwardness, on a first date, go somewhere on the casual side. Grab coffee or tea, when going to a coffee shop, normally, it happens in this order: order, pay, and then sit down and start your date. Since drinks are ordered separately, it is so much easier to pay separately as well. This eliminates the awkwardness of who is going to pay, and the stress is out of the way from the start. Now, focusing on each other for the rest of your time is no longer a chore.
In the end, it should not really matter who pays. Even if someone insists on paying, offering to help may be the right thing to do. Senior Abby Potter stated, “I don’t mind offering to pay for my half of the date considering we are still young and not everyone has a lot of money.” There are many ways to even the playing field, if a first date turns into a second date, whoever did not pay the first time could insist on paying the second! The goal of dating is not to see who has the power over the other, but to learn about each other. Take time to learn what likes and dislikes are similar, and if that person has the attributes that are necessary in a partner. Do not let the object of money get in the way of finding a relationship that could last a lifetime.
If You Ask, You Pay
There are no rules or commandments for how a first date should go. When the check comes, neither gender knows what to do. Sometimes, if men try to pick up the check, they are seen as sexist. Splitting the check could potentially harm the chances of a second date, and sometimes even refusing to split the check will do the same thing. How can anyone know what to do?
In a survey by SurveyMonkey on love and finances, 78% said they think men should pay for the first date. A shocking discovery was made, however. While 72% of women that took the survey agreed, a whopping 85% of men said so, too. It was also found that many men think women do not enjoy the date if they want to pay for themselves. Save men the confusion and just let them pay.
Senior Sarah Miller said, “The person who asks should be the one who pays.” The payment of the date should be discussed before it happens. High school students are not the most financially stable members of society, therefore it is not safe to assume someone will have money. Communication is the key to everything, and it will make the first date a breeze.
Ladies, do not let the guys pay for every date. It may be a tradition, but it is 2018 and we are all equals. Try to chip in or pay for a date every once in a while. Instead of avoiding the check, make it known if paying is a problem.