Crossfire: Promposals- Yay or Nay?
March 28, 2019
Is the act of “promposing” super cute or completely overrated? YOU DECIDE after reading this Crossfire.
Will You Go to Prom With Me?
What is better than signs, puns, and love? Prom season is coming and with it, a series of what is now known as “promposals.” This phrase became popular when students started asking their significant other to prom in a number of creative ways. These special requests became so elaborate that they were compared to marriage proposals, thus coining the term promposal. While this process may seem over the top, for couples it is an important gesture that gives students an opportunity to be creative and express their commitment.
Promposals are often cute and funny, including things like signs, t-shirts, food, and music. Some people complain, saying that promposals are over the top or even mean, but that is not true for many of the students who participate in them. Those who attempt such an elaborate request for a date are often part of an established couple trying to do something extra special for their significant other. Even when the students are not a couple, it gives everyone a unique opportunity to be creative and customize their request to the person they are asking. It is more impressive when someone is asked on a date, especially to prom, using something that they are interested in. If someone plays softball, their partner may write “Prom?” on softballs, or if they love dogs, their partner may ask them with a puppy in their hands. This is a great way to be personal and unique. Prom is one of the most important experiences for high schoolers and many of them want it to be special, even when it comes to being asked. However, as freshman Claire Taylor stated, “I want something genuine, not something extra.” Promposals do not always have to be in public and are many times followed by the answer “yes” rather than “no.” They help to better the prom experience and create plenty of happy memories and cute pictures.
Students use prom as an opportunity to show their partner that they matter. By putting time and effort into creating a unique way to ask their partner on a date, a boyfriend or girlfriend can show that they care about their significant other and are willing to put in the time and effort necessary to make them smile. Plus nowadays, teenagers are becoming increasingly disconnected. They communicate through technology instead of face to face and oftentimes, would rather text instead of call. It is important that people continue to find time to do something special for each other and spend time with their friends and significant others. Plus, who would not appreciate being asked to prom through a choreographed dance instead of a simple text? Promposals are funny, cute, and meaningful so we should keep spreading love and creating amazing ones.
Promposals Cause Unnecessary Stress
Prom is allegedly the most important event in a student’s high school years where people overspend on dresses, accessories, and sometimes limos just to impress their date who they will most likely never hear from after graduating. Some people look forward to prom throughout all of high school and, although it is fun the night of, the months leading up to it can be miserable (particularly the promposals). It always seems to happen right in the middle of the hallway while people are trying to get to class. They stand there mesmerized by the so-called “cute” promposal taking place while everyone else has to make their way through the sea of people just to have a chance of making it to class.
Junior Ami-Faith Sheerer knows that promposals can be extremely stressful and overwhelming to some people. “Promposals can often be a distracting display of affection that disrupts normal school activities. Hallways are crowded, and with people stopping to photograph and record promposals, it is easy for hallways to become clogged which in turn can cause students to be late for classes,” she said. What if someone goes through all the trouble to make a “sweet” proposal, and then they get publicly embarrassed because they get turned down? That is so much pressure, not only for the person promposing but also for the person being asked. What if they feel guilty about saying no so they say yes even though they would rather not go? That is unfair to everyone involved, and no one should feel pressure to say yes. In an interview with CNN, Jarrod Chin said, “As promposals have become more elaborate and public, so, too, does the potential for increased humiliation and social pressure.” No one should feel like they have to have a date to prom, and if promposals were less stressful maybe people would have less anxiety about going to prom alone or saying no to someone they do not want to go with.